Where to Find a Mistress:

There are few places to find a Mistress.  It’s much harder trying to date women and going at it blind or asking people in real life something about their interest in this.  I don’t know about you, but I think most guys are reluctant to reveal something as intimate as their interest in BDSM to someone in the vanilla world. So what do you do?  Go where they congregate.

1.      Online alternative personal websites

The two largest websites I recommend is www.alt.com and www.collarme.com (this one is free) and you can browse profiles of Dommes in every state. 

2.      Go to events like munches or alternative lifestyle parties, there are often clubs in big cities.  You can meet a lot of people there.  Some of them will be single.

3.      Try www.craigslist.org  and post an ad in the casual or miscellaneous encounters.  Detail what you seek.

How to Contact a Mistress the Correct Way:

Most slaves/submissives know about those websites but they still can’t get a Mistress because their approach is all wrong.  They are irritating, annoying, and often getting Mistresses mad with their initial approach.

You know when they say that first impressions count.  In this case, it’s true even though it’s not a conventional relationship.  First and foremost, you need to remember that a Mistress is a human being and a woman.  So you need to be polite and respectful when you’re contacting someone.

Most slaves and subs are intelligent, educated, and nice people so I don’t understand why some of them don’t behave like it.

So that means you need to abide by the following:

A)     You need to be polite and respectful in your email and internet messages that you send out.

B)     Acknowledge that her time is valuable and you thank her for reading your message at the end.

C)     Don’t send out mass messages with the one copy/paste paragraph you’ve written.  Trust me, Mistress know when you are doing it.  You need to take the time to read her profile, find out if she suits you, and write a personalized message.  It will be better received.

D)     Address her in your message.  Its better if you write to Mistress or Dear Mistress Katie, than if it’s just a one paragraph message address to no one.  Find out if she has a name in her profile or some form of address, if not, then you can use the general Mistress term.

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